Beyond the Battle: Embracing Life and Inspiring Others After Breast Cancer

I had the pleasure of meeting Tatisa at one of her events in 2018, and it was an unforgettable experience. Since then, I’ve been profoundly inspired by her journey and the work she does. According to the National Breast Cancer Foundation, "1 in 8 women in the United States will be diagnosed with breast cancer in her lifetime. In 2024, an estimated 310,720 women and 2,800 men will be diagnosed with invasive breast cancer. Chances are, you know at least one person who has been personally affected by breast cancer." I am one of those individuals. At 19, I had to say goodbye to my grandmother because her diagnosis came too late. It was a devastating loss. Years later, when a lump was discovered in my left breast and with two young children, I knew I couldn’t take any risks. This personal connection fuels my passion for breast cancer awareness.

Meeting Tatisa was a turning point for me. She has become a beacon of hope and strength, illuminating the path forward in a way that transcends the pain of past experiences. Her mission to empower women is truly inspiring and beyond what words can fully express. I am both humbled and honored to have the opportunity to interview her and share her remarkable story.

To start our conversation, Tatisa, could you share your personal journey with breast cancer and what led you to start the Tatisa C. Joiner Foundation?

After giving birth to my first and only child at 35, I was diagnosed with breast cancer just nine months later at 36. That moment changed everything. My entire perspective on life shifted—what my grandmother would call 'a shift in the atmosphere.' Suddenly, I realized I had a choice: either let the turbulent waters of this diagnosis pull me under or fight with everything I had. I chose to fight—not just for myself, but for the child I had prayed for. I wanted to be here to raise my child, to witness the incredible journey of nurturing an innocent soul.

During that time, as I balanced the joy of motherhood with the heartache of battling cancer, I found myself searching for more than just therapy. I needed a space where I could find support, understanding, and strength. That's when the idea for the Tatisa C. Joiner Foundation was born—a place where others could find the same solace and empowerment I sought.

Can you discuss the importance of early detection and what steps women can take to be proactive about their breast health?

Early detection is crucial, especially if you have a family history of breast cancer. It's important to do monthly self-exams, even something as simple as checking in the shower. Know your body—if something doesn't feel or look right, trust your instincts. Don't be afraid to talk about it with your family and ask questions. In the Black community, we often shy away from asking, 'Has anyone else in our family had breast cancer?' But these conversations are vital. Advocate for yourself—demand a mammogram if something feels off. This is your body, and you have every right to know what’s going on with it.

How has surviving breast cancer shaped your outlook on life and your approach to challenges?

Great question. Surviving breast cancer has profoundly influenced how I view life and approach challenges. Everyone faces challenges, whether big or small, but it's how you choose to show up in the face of those challenges that defines your outlook on life. I’ve learned not to let anyone or anything disrupt my peace. It might be easy to walk away, to forget, or to push things out of your mind as if they don’t exist. But the real strength lies in acknowledging the truth and confronting whatever comes your way with unwavering determination.

For me, the key was recognizing that I 'had' breast cancer, but breast cancer never had me. That shift in perspective has empowered me to live boldly and celebrate life every single day.

What was your support system like, and how did it help you through your journey?

Wow—thinking back 21 years, it still feels so fresh. I never attended a support group or met other survivors until I participated in my first 60-mile breast cancer walk in 2004. My true support system was and continues to be, my husband, my mom, family, and friends. They were the ones who stood by me every step of the way, providing the strength and encouragement I needed to keep going. Their unwavering love and support made all the difference in my journey.

Can you share a moment when you felt particularly empowered or inspired during your battle with cancer?

One of the most empowering moments during my battle with cancer was on June 29, 2008, when I unveiled my topless portrait in front of 600 people. It was a bold and liberating act, a powerful statement of reclaiming my body and my identity. That moment was not just about facing my fears; it was about embracing my strength and inspiring others to do the same.

How do you stay motivated to continue your work with the foundation after 21 years of survivorship?

My motivation comes from my son—he truly saved my life. When I think about all the women who, like me, have children and are diagnosed with breast cancer, I’m driven by the shared fear of not being there to raise our children. This fear fuels my determination to help save lives. The energy and mental security that a woman receives when The Tatisa C. Joiner Foundation embraces her is powerful. When I say 'we are our sister’s keeper,' it’s not just words—it’s our mission in action.

How has the landscape of breast cancer awareness and treatment changed since you were diagnosed, and what should women know today?

The landscape of breast cancer treatment has evolved significantly since I was first diagnosed. We've made great strides, particularly in the types of surgeries available. Reflecting on my own experience, I often feel like I was a test subject due to the complications I faced with my surgeries. Over the past 21 years, I've dealt with a range of issues, including a mesh infection, a small bowel obstruction, ruptured ovarian cysts, a tear in my upper abdomen, and most recently, mesh separation in my lower abdomen. This particular type of mesh is no longer used in reconstruction surgeries due to its tendency to deteriorate.

Today, women have more options than what was available to me back then. It’s important for women to know that advances in treatment and technology offer better solutions and fewer complications. Always discuss all available options with your healthcare provider to make the best-informed decisions for your health.

What advice would you give to women who have just been diagnosed with breast cancer?

My advice to women who have just been diagnosed is simple but profound: Know who you are. You are a vessel capable of carrying life, sharing in the miraculous gift of creation with the Supreme Being. Know who you are. You are a beacon of light in someone’s life—when they see you, they come alive. Know who you are. You are the embodiment of love, with a heart that beats in harmony with your breath, and as you breathe, your blood has the power to heal. Know who you are. You are a woman—extraordinary from the crown of your head to the soles of your feet. Embrace your strength and your unique beauty as you face this journey.

What do you believe are the keys to maintaining hope and a positive mindset during difficult times?

The key to maintaining hope and a positive mindset during difficult times is to do what you love. It could be as simple as watching a butterfly flutter in the wind, moving with no particular destination, just enjoying the freedom to be. Step outside your normal routine and explore new places. Stop telling yourself 'you can’t'—the word 'no' should only apply to others, not to yourself. Give yourself permission to cry—cry hard, but not for too long. Most importantly, create a version of yourself that is so strong and confident that no one and nothing can change the way you see YOU.

Can you share a moment when you felt particularly empowered or inspired during your battle with cancer?

One of the most empowering moments during my battle with cancer was on June 29, 2008, when I unveiled my topless portrait in front of 600 people. It was a bold and liberating act, a powerful statement of reclaiming my body and my identity. That moment was not just about facing my fears; it was about embracing my strength and inspiring others to do the same.

What were some of the most challenging moments during your fight with breast cancer, and how did you overcome them?

The challenges of breast cancer can linger long after the fight, and for me, one of the hardest battles was convincing myself that I was still whole and desirable after losing my breast. The emotional toll of feeling less than complete was immense. To overcome this, I decided to take a bold step—I posed topless for a portrait as a gift for my husband. As I gathered the courage to do this, my husband surprised me by asking to be in the picture with me. In that moment, all my fears and doubts vanished. His gesture was a powerful reminder that my worth and desirability were never tied to my breast—they were a part of who I am, beyond any physical change.

What resources does the Tatisa Joiner Foundation offer to support women diagnosed with breast cancer and their families?

The Tatisa C. Joiner Foundation offers a range of resources to support women diagnosed with breast cancer and their families. We provide car services to and from chemotherapy treatments, ensuring that transportation is one less worry. Our counseling services offer emotional support and guidance. We also have trained professional nurses who assist with hands-on hospital visit advocacy, ensuring that patients receive the best care possible. Additionally, we hold monthly 'Celebration of Life' meetings to uplift and inspire, and we offer medication assistance to help manage the financial burden of treatment.

What role does advocacy play in your foundation's work, and how can others get involved in supporting breast cancer awareness?

Advocacy is at the heart of our foundation's work. We deeply understand the needs of our community, including the need for educational resources and support for caregivers. We actively advocate for and with our community members, forming coalitions to address gaps in the system. Breast cancer survivors often face burnout while navigating a fragmented system, and our role is to support and guide them through it.

Others can get involved by reaching out to us to make a donation. Your support helps further our mission of empowering, inspiring, and encouraging individuals to celebrate life after cancer. Together, we can make a significant impact in advancing breast cancer awareness and support.

How can women who haven’t been directly affected by breast cancer still contribute to the cause and support those who have?

One of the hardest things to navigate is not knowing what to say or do. The best approach is to simply ask, 'What can I do to help?' and then listen to the answer. Sometimes the response might be 'nothing,' but there is always something you can do. Women who are newly diagnosed can feel overwhelmed, lost in a daze and a maze. They might not want to think, talk, eat, or sleep—cancer can consume their entire being.

So, how can you support them? Sit quietly with her; hold her hand and share in the silence. Wipe her tears when they fall—because they will—and avoid telling her not to cry. Your presence, compassion, and willingness to just be there can provide immense comfort and support.

What lessons from your journey with breast cancer can be applied to overcoming other types of adversity?

One of the key lessons from my journey with breast cancer is the importance of being steadfast in whatever you pursue. Approach challenges with determination and strive for excellence. Remember that the race is not just about where you finish but about the perseverance and commitment you show along the way. No matter where you land, you are a winner simply by continuing to push forward and giving your best effort.

What message do you want to send to women everywhere during Breast Cancer Awareness Month?

The message I want to share is that every day should be treated like October. Breast cancer is not something we only think about for 31 days a year. It’s a daily reality for many of us, and our awareness, care, and support should extend beyond a single month. Let's carry the spirit of Breast Cancer Awareness Month with us every day, staying committed to awareness, support, and action throughout the entire year.

Looking back on your 21-year journey, what are you most proud of?

Looking back on my 21-year journey, I am most proud that my son has been with me through it all. He has grown up understanding the significance of survival and the impact breast cancer has had on me. Knowing that he will carry this knowledge with him into the future, whether he has a wife or a daughter, brings me immense pride. He will be equipped with a deep understanding of this potentially deadly disease, the heartache it can bring, and the strength required to face it.

What do you hope to achieve with your foundation in the next five years?

In the next five years, I hope to build a network of survivors who act as ambassadors for the Tatisa C. Joiner Foundation. My goal is to have these ambassadors share their personal stories and testimonies of survivorship, amplifying our message and support. By creating a community of voices and experiences, we can inspire and empower others, broadening our impact and strengthening our mission.

What legacy do you hope the Tatisa Joiner Foundation leaves for future generations?

I believe that legacy is not just about material possessions, but the impact we make and the values we instill. Through the Tatisa C. Joiner Foundation, I hope to leave behind a legacy of positive memories and a value system that fosters elevation and strong relationships. My goal is for our foundation to inspire future generations to support one another, cherish meaningful connections, and continue advocating for breast cancer awareness and support.

How do you want to be remembered, both as a survivor and as an advocate for breast cancer awareness?

I want to be remembered for having the courage to be bold. As both a survivor and an advocate for breast cancer awareness, my hope is that my legacy reflects a fearless commitment to facing challenges head-on and inspiring others to do the same. Boldness in action and spirit—that's how I wish to be remembered.

How do you spend most of your time?

I love indulging in romantic love stories—there's nothing better than curling up with a glass of wine, a fluffy blanket, and a good love story. On other days, I enjoy cooking my favorite meal: baked salmon with yams, asparagus, and garlic toast. While I can’t eat that every day, I savor it whenever I can. Most days, I’m at home, relishing the beauty of my backyard in the spring and summer, and sipping on hot cocoa or tea during the fall and winter.

As you reflect on your journey, what are you most proud of and why?*

I am most proud of the fact that I take nothing for granted. I cherish the simple, yet profound gifts of life—my lungs to breathe, my eyes to see, and my feet to walk. Each day is a reminder of how precious these abilities are, and this gratitude fuels my perspective and actions.

Tell us a little about your family and what you do for fun?

My family consists of my husband, a retired Chicago firefighter, and my son, who is currently a senior at Tuskegee University. For fun, we love to vacation as often as possible. Traveling together is a cherished activity that allows us to create lasting memories and enjoy new experiences as a family.

To connect with Tatisa, visit:

Website: www.tatisacjoinerfoundation.com

Email: tatisa@tatisacjoinerfoundation.com

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatisa-tasha-joiner-4585192a/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tatisa.joiner

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tatisajoiner/